Ever notice the paradox of relationships? The more you are hurt, the more is required of you to heal the relationship. The natural response is to pull into yourself, but healing requires stepping back out there to be hurt again. The relationship can only be restored if you are willing to risk again.
Yet there are some folks who can be counted on to offend in the same way again and again. With those folk, I’ve found the only way to have a relationship is to trust them only where they are trustworthy.
For instance (to give a horrible example), with a repeat child abuser, you do not trust them to care for your children.
I guess you might say it’s getting closer again wisely. Unlike God, we can not always “remember [their] sins no more.”
True enough. Fortunately, I am thinking of such foolishness as being unfriendly or uninterested — small, unintentional offenses. In pursuing friendship I have to put myself out there again, even if I felt snubbed.